By
Dr John Anne
In very simple terms, premature ejaculation is defined as the
condition when the man ejaculates too soon, that is, before the female
partner - or indeed, he himself - has arrived at a sexual climax. When
this happens, there is a lot of dissatisfaction from the sexual act,
which could lead to frustrations and even issues between married
partners. Statistics reveal that premature ejaculation is one of the
most important sexual incompatibility causes for divorces in the world
today.
There are two basic types of premature ejaculation. The first is primary premature ejaculation, where the man has suffered from premature ejaculation all through his life, i.e. he has never ejaculated after prolonged sex. The other type - what most men of the world are suffering from - is called secondary premature ejaculation. This is when the man ejaculates prematurely later in life due to some inner condition.
Though premature ejaculation occurs in men of most ages, young men are more prone to suffer from this disorder. The main cause behind this could be the inexperience of the young men indulging in sex. The excitement and the frenzy associated with the first few sexual encounters of a man's life can also cause the ejaculation to be premature. This is the reason why most women prefer older men. As men grow older, they learn better the tricks of self control. This makes them hold out better and let go only when they are sure their female partners have reached their own sexual climax.
In some cultures, premature ejaculation is more prevalent than in others. This is because of sexual taboos that children are made to grow up with. These young boys grow up thinking that masturbation is some kind of a dirty act. Hence, when they get the urge they may masturbate quickly in the bathroom or in some hidden place for fear of being found out. Naturally, they ejaculate too soon. This habit remains with them when they grow up, and they develop conditions of premature ejaculation.
The number of treatment methods available in the market purporting to be 'cures' for premature ejaculation is a good indicator of how widespread this condition is among men. Men believe that they come too soon to be satisfactory to their partners. The root cause behind this is pornographic films. Porn is responsible for perpetrating several myths about sex; and one among them are the thirty-odd minute long sessions of couples having sex. Though this is not unreal, the fact is that most couples would not stretch the actual penetrative act by more than a few minutes. As a result, a man watching a porn movie would find something lacking in the way he performs his sexual act.
Talking about cures for premature ejaculation, there is no real treatment for the issue. The reason behind this is that premature ejaculation is not a disease at all. Ejaculating before time can be controlled simply by exercising more mind play into the act. The squeeze technique is very effective in controlling premature ejaculation. This is done by masturbating the penis till the semen is just about to be released. At this time, the glans of the penis is squeezed in order to the stop the ejaculation. Masturbation is continued after the urge to ejaculate passes away. This process of masturbate - squeeze - masturbate again is repeated for a number of times. This method is also known to increase the bulk of the semen when it is finally reached.
